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Resilience Tip - Pleased vs. Complacent
Organizational studies suggest that one of the things employees most desire and least feel is acknowledgement, recognition for effort and work well done. People will grumble about their boss not addressing this important issue. And yet we are often similarly neglectful in the way we relate to ourselves.
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Resilience Tip - Statement Questions
Ever notice how sometimes people ask a question when they really do not have a question? Recently I approached an office building where the gate at the entrance booth was open. I pulled up past the gate to the window where the guard was sitting, and opened my window to say where I was headed. The guard asked: “Why did you pull up past the gate?” I attempted to answer. However, as the guard repeated the question, I noticed a slightly annoyed and slightly frustrated feeling growing inside me.
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Resilience Tip - Confusion's Beauty
“I’m confused”, clients have said with a look of dismay. “Great!” I say. “That is the first step toward new thinking.” We humans use routine thinking for routine situations. We compartmentalize incoming data to help us manage the vast amounts of information coming our way. Hmm, seat, back, some legs – goes into our “chair” compartment of our thinking, and then we can move on to another thought
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Resilience Tip - Judgment, Decision-Making, and Compassion
There is an important distinction when we judge people, versus judging objects or ideas. Judging a person’s qualifications or behaviors can appropriately guide us toward fitting actions. Regarding a person or a person’s character, it may be more helpful, and more resilient, to focus on compassion and on making decisions rather than judgments.
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Resilience Tip - Truth and Fact
“My truth is not fact.” a client recently declared to me. It was a magical moment of insight.
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Resilience Tip - Flexible Thinking
Flexible thinking is a characteristic of high-level resilience. This is the ability to consider multiple perspectives, to consider different possible understandings of a situation or problem, as well as resulting different possibilities for action. Flexible thinking gives us greater choice and so a greater sense of control, contributing to an increased sense of psychological well-being.
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Resilience Tip - Hidden Opportunities
Stuff happens that we wish hadn’t. Little stuff goes wrong, bigger stuff goes wrong, tragic stuff happens. At that moment it is hard to imagine a blessing in the situation.
And, we can likely think of examples where there did turn out to be a blessing. Taking a job to ensure financial stability vs. following your dream, and realizing the job gives the exact training missing to achieve the dream. Being forced out of a comfortable apartment and finding the apartment that actually fits all your needs. Your place of employment closing
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Resilience Tip - Holiday Expectations
Expectations - the difference between a good holiday with family and the “get me out of here as quick as possible” experience. The gap between what we expect to happen and what actually happens is what creates disappointment. And disappointment can hugely affect our mood and overall experience of the holiday.
“But you do not know my family”, I can already hear you saying. “Mine is the family from hell.” In fact I have heard many stories about the family from hell.
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Resilience Tip - Not All About Content
Many of my tips have an emphasis on widening or shifting perceptions of an issue, putting the issue in a framework that is more easily amenable to problem-solving. Having a problem-solving focus is a characteristic of high-level resilience. By understanding the issue better, by being more flexible in how we perceive and relate to the information involved in the issue, we can more effectively problem-solve the issue.
One place where people continue to feel stuck, despite becoming skilled in the above, is when the content is not the issue. This is where
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Resilience Tip- Focusing on Desired vs. Undesired
Humans seem naturally inclined to focus on what is not good, on what to fix or change, on what to stop doing, on what we do not want. We seem less naturally inclined to focus on what is going well, on what to keep doing, on what we want. There was likely evolutionary adaptive-ness to this, and there remain times when this way of thinking is critically important. And, we may have developed a “limp” in our thinking, where
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Resilience Tip - Contribution vs. Blame
The difference between contribution and blame can be the difference between productive problem-solving and tense stale-mate. The way we language is critical. The words we use can shape our subsequent perceiving and thinking. Flexibility, including flexibility with our languaging, is a
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Resilience Tip - Resilience of "No"
The word NO has become quite negative in a world where we are increasingly urged to be positive. In this climate it seems we have become hesitant to use an important aspect of communication. Some feel increasingly guilty when they use the word NO. We may fear being perceived as inflexible, selfish, or poor listeners.
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Resilience Tip - Parenting Resiliently
In addition to wanting to develop resilience within ourselves, many wonder how to develop resilience in our children. (The ideas below can also be applied to others whose development we want to influence, such as grandchildren and direct reports in the workplace.) Remember that resilience is like a buffer, a cushion for reducing
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Resilience Tip - Patterns in Disagreements
Disagreements can be exasperating, particularly disagreements that seem to come up again and again. Repetitive problems often require
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Resilience Tip - Secret of Balance
One of my favorite anecdotes is an exchange between a student and his martial arts teacher. After watching the teacher practice for some time, the student asks in wonder: How did you become such a master in maintaining your balance? The teacher replied: I am not a master in maintaining my balance, I have become a master in regaining my balance.
This anecdote is packed with characteristics of resilience. The first characteristic is
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Resilience Tip - Making Resolutions Work
\'Tis the season for making resolutions. And \'tis shortly the season where we scratch our heads and wonder what happened to those resolutions. How to actually make those resolutions stick?
Experience suggests that it takes roughly 3-4 weeks for humans to
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Resilience Tip - Shifting from "But" to "And"
There are several common tendencies we humans have that constrict rather than expand our thinking. One of these is the tendency to respond to another person's communication with
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Resilience Tip - Road Runner and Communicating in Present
Remember the Road Runner cartoons where Road Runner would suddenly change direction from what Wile E. Coyote expected, and Wile E. Coyote would go plunging off into some danger? And just in case you are unfamiliar with this American cultural icon, remember a time when you were meeting up with someone and then slipped as you
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Resilience Tip - When Knowledge Can Hurt
"It is what we think we know already that often prevents us from learning." (Claude Bernard) Curiosity is one of the characteristics of highly resilient people. Sometimes it is relatively
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Resilience Tip - Breathing Deeply
Many of us have defaulted to "shallow" breathing, or chest breathing. Consciously shifting to "deep" breathing, or belly breathing, even for brief periods during our day, can be extremely
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Resilience Tip - Emotions as Communication
A critical characteristic of resilience is flexible thinking. For effective problem-solving we want to be able to see the issue from different perspectives and
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Resilience Tip - Mind Reading
Resilience is the ability to cope well with difficulties and to bounce back from setbacks.
While some people are naturally more resilient than others, resiliency can also be intentionally developed.
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Resilience Tip - Control, Where is it always possible?
Having a sense of control is a critical part of responding resiliently. Humans tend not to like the feeling of being blown around by the winds of chance
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Resilience Tip - Time Management During the Holidays
Resilience is the ability to cope well with difficulties and to bounce back from setbacks. While some people are naturally more resilient than others, resiliency can also be intentionally developed.
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Social Support
RESILIENCE TIPResilience is the ability to cope well with difficulties and to bounce back from setbacks.While some people are naturally more resilient than others, resiliency can also be intentionally developed.Social SupportSocial support is an important factor in our resilience.But what does "support" mean? For example:Read more... -
Resilience Tip - Staying Up in Down Times
Resilience is the ability to cope well with difficulties and to bounce back from setbacks. While some people are naturally more resilient than others,resiliency can also be intentionally developed.
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RESILIENCE TIP #1 -Care for your Physical Health
Resilience is the ability to cope well with difficulties and to bounce back from setbacks.While some people are naturally more resilient than others, resiliency can also be intentionally developed.How to start?
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התשתית החוקית, האתית והמעשית
תיאור של תהליך הגישור בפרק זה מתייחס לגישור באופן כללי כשיטה ליישוב סכסוכים בתחומים רבים – סכסוכים עסקיים ומסחריים, סכסוכים בצרכנות, בין שכנים, בין קרובי משפחה ועוד.
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Creating Your Home Court Advantage
June 19 2008
(edited 3 year, 2 month ago)
Tags:You may root for your home team, but how often do you root for yourself? How to develop self-talk that is positive and genuine.
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המגשר: תפקידו, כישוריו והכשרתו
תיאור של תהליך הגישור בפרק זה מתייחס לגישור באופן כללי כשיטה ליישוב סכסוכים בתחומים רבים – סכסוכים עסקיים ומסחריים, סכסוכים בצרכנות, בין שכנים, בין קרובי משפחה ועוד.
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Attitude – The Critical Third Leg
The triangle of success includes knowledge, skills, and attitude. Why is attitude important, and how can we - really- change attitude?
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What is Coaching?
Coaching is about change, but what kind of change? This is the first column by business psychologist and coach, Dr. Carolyn Tal, to introduce and give tips from the field of professional coaching.
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הליך הגישור: עקרונותיו והתנהלותו
תיאור של תהליך הגישור בפרק זה מתייחס לגישור באופןכללי כשיטה ליישוב סכסוכים בתחומים רבים – סכסוכים עסקיים ומסחריים, סכסוכיםבצרכנות, בין שכנים, בין קרובי משפחה ועוד.
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What is PDC all about?
April 19 2008
(edited 2 year, 10 month ago)
Tags:TheP eopleD evelopmentC olumns help you maximize your chances for success. These columns are currently broken into 2 groups that appear 3 times per month.
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